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Transparency In A Relationship

How important is transparency in a relationship? Some claims that in a relationship everything must be shared, no secrecy should exists. As most puts it, “secrecy is a sign of guilt”, hence some people being called liars for keeping secrets from their partners. But do they deserve such title for their action? Despite the fact that openness is important in a relationship, but there is another important ingredient in keeping the relationship strong, trust.

Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. – Mike Paul

Perhaps most people have forgotten that trust is much more important in a relationship. By having high level of trust in a relationship, we don’t need so much of transparency. Not every information needed to be share, have we forgotten about privacy? Do we need to expose every details about our past and present to our partners? No, we do not.

Example of a case:

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a married woman. I have sinned by speaking to and writing love letters to another man. I know I have made a mistake. I am desperate to know how I can I pay for my sin. Is it necessary for me to tell my husband about it? If I do, he will never forgive me. How can I fortify my faith? Please help me as soon as possible with an answer. Jazakum Allah khayran.

A confession of a wife who were in a relationship with another man. It is wrong, without a doubt. But must she confess it to her husband? As she claimed, if doing so she’ll damage the relationship. In this situation it is best to keep it as a secret from the husband. As being answered by the scholar: Read More

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