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Transparency In A Relationship
How important is transparency in a relationship? Some claims that in a relationship everything must be shared, no secrecy should exists. As most puts it, “secrecy is a sign of guilt”, hence some people being called liars for keeping secrets from their partners. But do they deserve such title for their action? Despite the fact that openness is important in a relationship, but there is another important ingredient in keeping the relationship strong, trust.
Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. – Mike Paul
Perhaps most people have forgotten that trust is much more important in a relationship. By having high level of trust in a relationship, we don’t need so much of transparency. Not every information needed to be share, have we forgotten about privacy? Do we need to expose every details about our past and present to our partners? No, we do not.
Example of a case:
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a married woman. I have sinned by speaking to and writing love letters to another man. I know I have made a mistake. I am desperate to know how I can I pay for my sin. Is it necessary for me to tell my husband about it? If I do, he will never forgive me. How can I fortify my faith? Please help me as soon as possible with an answer. Jazakum Allah khayran.
A confession of a wife who were in a relationship with another man. It is wrong, without a doubt. But must she confess it to her husband? As she claimed, if doing so she’ll damage the relationship. In this situation it is best to keep it as a secret from the husband. As being answered by the scholar: Read More
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Where Have That Child Gone?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
A well said words quoted from the movie Coach Carter, which was originally written by Marianne Williamson in her novel A Return To Love. Some of us might not notice, but it is true.
Remember those days when we were kids, we got nothing to fear. Climbed the tallest tree, jumped into the deepest river, played with worms, and more to be list out. We have no worries in the world what shall happened. But today, we have that child gone?
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