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Love Required Trusts
We often hear phrase such as “trust me if you love me”, in films or read it in novels. However in reality how much trust does a lover have on their partner? Do they trust their partner as much as they love them?
The special feeling
“A special thing called love”, that is how most people would describe this feeling. Something that is so special and can only be given to the special one.
As the love blossoms it is now more than just a feeling. A lover will now provide everything their partner needs. From something tangible things such as clothes and cash to something that is intangible such as security and caring. One lover always want to know with whom their partner with, where they are, what are they doing and so on. Some are even inseparable, always seen together wherever and whenever.
These actions may proves that they love each other too much, or they are being sceptical over their partners. This is where the issue of trusts being questioned.
Questioning the trusts
As the title stated “Love Required Trusts”, it is also trusts that keeping the love alive long as possible. However how much trusts does a person have over their partner? What got my attention is whenever this question being asked, people would say they trusts their partner in everything. While in reality their actions are contradicting with their words.
Imagine a situation where one person have to report every single thing to their partner. Their whereabouts, their activities, and their friends. Well this does look normal to loving couples. But what if it reaches a level where their partner asking them to be with them all the time. Talk only to him or her, being sceptical about their friends, and doubting their words. Does trusts still available in this situation? From my perspective I would say no. Are they caring or love them too much, and worries that they might lost their loving one? Well perhaps.
But then again if their partner really loves them, they should not be worried about all these. They should not be sceptical and doubting their partner. However in reality this is what happens. A person usually being sceptical over their partner, and sometimes they prefer listening to their friends and go with their assumptions rather than believing their partner. Such sad scenario, totally different from films or any romance novels.
Keeping the relationship alive
Reality may have much difference from films and novels, keeping the love alive may not be as easy as saying “I love you”. But it is not that hard as well. Trust is truly vital in a relationship, and it is not so difficult to keep it alive. Being together all the time does not really helps, because lovers might lose the interests due to spending too much time together.
I believed that if your partner truly love you, they will valued your trusts. They would certainly never break it. As they appreciating your trusts they would do the same to you. Trusting you in everything, and this would most likely helps in keeping the relationship alive as long as possible.
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Good post there! I have to agree that trust is indeed a vital ingredient in keeping relationships alive and well – but personally, i thought that if a person requires the partner to report every single thing, it sort of becomes a pressure in the relationship. This is where trust comes in.
Trust is equivalent to giving your partner the chance to pursue happiness, and yet at the same time knowing very well that your partner will not turn his/her back on you. This is the stage where both parties understand each other thoroughly. In other words, entrusting your faith and love in your partner totally. But in this world, i really do wonder how many couples can be like this – sharing moments of joy, treating each other like best friends and not feeling any pressure in the relationship.
When it comes to relationships, love can be a selfish thing. Its normal for people to expect their special ones to give them full attention. But when the tiniest unexpected thing happens, their sense of security gets jerked up. And suspect plays in, leading to bigger things.
I thought that love should be unconditional, i.e. not finding faults with the partner you chose. In a relationship, both parties should learn and grow together – each complementing the other, and not away from each other. In this way both parties will see the views and understand each other’s thoughts =)
Haha … nice! Very interesting! Would say that I would agree to most of it. But then again, there is no perfect/absolute rule for love. Different couples react differently. Some couples just need to argue and not trust sometimes in order to survive the *ahem* “boredom”… haha
Anyhow, complete or too much trust in a relationship is also not that good to me. Sometimes you just need to question a little (for eg, ask them where did they go just now, who they went out with). If you don’t do that, they might just one day think that you don’t love them anymore. Asking is sometimes showing concern and showing your love to them. Haha… but then again I am no love expert. Hehe
whoah!!!good points here..
i do agree with you that trust is really a requirement for love. see, you can trust without loving but you can never love someone without trusting.
but then again,some of your points are based on those situations where the partner is being insecure and the other party is the one who is suffering..it is not actually not trusting or wanting the partner to be with him/her all the time..it’s the insecurity.
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